I have been in the BDSM community for over 15 years, and have trained, mentored and been in relationships with a number of subs, as a Dominant. I was very fortunate to be mentored by a very experienced Dom in London for two years. I believe I have a deep understanding of the lifestyle, my role and responsibilities as a Dom. Of course, there is always more to learn. It is a process, ongoing, for both Dom and sub, where the aim is not some end point, but rather a commitment to the process. I live in London six months of the year, and in New Zealand, where I'm originally from, for the other six months. I have a real passion for providing support, guidance, mentoring for women who are curious to learn more about the lifestyle, in an online capacity. I have experienced that the anonymity of an online connection can help provide a degree of safety and security to reach out and begin to explore. There is so much misunderstanding about the lifestyle. A true Dominant serves the best interests of his sub. Her journey, her growth, her safety, her wellbeing are his major responsibilities. That is the true power exchange, the responsibilities the Dom takes, in exchange for the gift of submission given to him. Encouraging a sub to challenge her boundaries, being very clear and honest about what that involves, and only proceeding in ways she agrees to, is the heart of a genuine and honest Dom/sub relationship. Submission should never be assumed as a right, but rather earned by the Dom through his words and actions. As in so many areas of our lives, learning and growth often occur best when boundaries are tested, when we seek new experiences, when we allow ourselves to push beyond our comfort zones in a planned and consensual manner. I believe that full acceptance and expression of our sexuality is a unique way of accessing the deepest parts of ourselves.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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