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Choices Right or wrong, we make them every day. Every day... We live with the consequences as well. I talked to the Hippie on the phone on Friday, probably a bad choice on my part. He had texted me and told me the Mighty Marine and I had inspired him to make some positive change in his life. I was curious. Turns out the positive change was giving up marijuana. Not because he wanted to.... But because he was penniless and could not afford it. He went on to tell me about how he had spent nearly all of his money for years on marijuana and he now regretted it. I kept it to myself, but this pissed me right the fuck off. Really?!? And, in that time that we were seeing each other, and he was always broke, and I was always paying for everything.... It was because he spent his money on drugs. The worst part was, he was perfectly OK with expecting a struggling single mom to pay his way through everything. I listened as he went on to tell me that his family has completely abandoned him and he has gone into survival mode, living on one canned good a day and collecting firewood in the woods around him because his dad did not have any firewood sent out to his house this year. "You might be taking care of me and [the Spawn] this winter. Everyone has abandoned me." Did he really think he was going to slip that in there?? And that I would say yes?!? "Nope, just [the Spawn]." "What was that?" "I said just [the Spawn]. You're a grown man, it's time to act like it." There was a long silence as he realized I wasn't about to just take him in and fix his problem. I went on to ask him if he's been looking for a job and where he has applied. He's applied nowhere. The same old story about how he owes money for student loans and old credit card bills and now the government for collecting unemployment when he shouldn't have been started coming out..... I'd heard it all before. "Stop. You've got to quit doing this. This is NEVER going away so you might as well get a job and deal with the garnishments." Another long silence. This man chose to burn all those bridges with his family. He kicked his father out of his home and threatened to end his life, what did he expect? It kind of takes away that feeling of obligation to support your loser . This man has probably been spending thousands of dollars year after year on wood deliveries for the Hippie because he knew the Hippie wouldn't be doing it for himself. He was correct. This year is proof in point. Winter is upon us and he is completely unprepared. There was a time when I though the Hippie had promise and hope, that he would turn things around and get back on track. It took me a while to realize, this was never going to happen. Even now, as he's hovering around rock bottom, he's still trying to find that next meal ticket instead of getting his shit together. I felt some closure when I ended that call. I will probably not know how he fares this winter or if he ever finds a job, my communication with the Hippie has reached an end. I do hope he will finally open his eyes and get his life on track. He is the only person that can do that for him. |
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Your analysis was a bleak one. But hang on a sec, how many times have you said, "This is the last time I'm speaking with him?" 😶 I understand; having hope for a person you cared for is a tricky thing to give up. Ya think he, maybe, perhaps, kinda — sorta — might veer towards the right lane? 🤔 ❓ You know what he said??? One was a True Detectives dvd series.... "You already said you would never watch it again. Why do you want it back?" "Because I bought it, I own it. It was expensive. You just can't keep stuff because you want it, it doesn't belong to you."
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The hippie will more than likely never change.
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It's very difficult to help a person if they don't want to help themselves. I'd be fuming if I found out an ex was spending my money on non-essentials while they were with me! 
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I know some guys like that and it amazes me that some women will support them while they breeze thru life.
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He has definitely become a total loser.
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Sometimes you just have to admit you can't fix someone.
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Can only hope for his sake he gets his shit together! We live in a time where there are plenty of resources for misguided individuals ie Homeless to get food and some help ! I do feel bad for them, but We are Masters of our own destiny for the most part !They can Sit and feel sorry for themselves or get it together and build a life !! Just my 2 cents ? Hope all goes well
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You are so right He's a Leach A user of people Get a real job and stand in his own to feet Show you he a man Then he has changed You did right don't back down. You can do it with kids He can do it for you. Xoxoxo have a wonderful day go enjoy the wild life. Oh, guess what! I saw the bunny yesterday when I got home from work! He came hopping out from behind my shed and sat there to say Hi. LOL Crazy, but I was excited to see him.
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It's truly hard living with someone who continually makes the wrong decisions or has an addiction. It sounds like he has never made any sort of effort in his life and that now he is going to face a very real consequence of his inactions. Here's hoping that rock bottom will force him to make actual choices for his own growth and wellbeing. Not everyone rises to the challenge but life isn't meant to be easy. Too many people utilize minimum or no effort, expecting things to be either handed to them or fall into their lap.
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I have no patience for people that won't help themselves. It is one thing for those that truly can't - the feeble minded, severely physically handicapped, etc. But in this day and age, no excuse for not just working hard and making do. Plenty of people desperate for workers.
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He only has himself to blame. I do hope he can turn things around but, you're right, he has to do it on his own.
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He needs some tough love baby!!!!! And he got it!!!!!
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Yes he did.
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"Turns out the positive change was giving up marijuana. Not because he wanted to... But because he was penniless and could not afford it." I'm sorry, but that's not change. Not when he admits it wasn't something he wanted but only because he could no longer afford it. And to tell you that you and your Marine son were the inspiration for that....yeah, sounds really good. But it's a load of bullshit. Also, to think you would be taking care of Spawn and him. WTF??? She's your 13 year old daughter and a minor. Where the hell does he get off thinking you'll just....what....finish raising him? Maybe he should consider filing bankruptcy to help with the debt problem, then get some counseling to help pull his head out of his ass. He may not have anything else to his name, but he's damned sure got some huge brass balls thinking you'll support his sorry ass.
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"Turns out the positive change was giving up marijuana. Not because he wanted to... But because he was penniless and could not afford it." I'm sorry, but that's not change. Not when he admits it wasn't something he wanted but only because he could no longer afford it. And to tell you that you and your Marine son were the inspiration for that....yeah, sounds really good. But it's a load of bullshit. Also, to think you would be taking care of Spawn and him. WTF??? She's your 13 year old daughter and a minor. Where the hell does he get off thinking you'll just....what....finish raising him? Maybe he should consider filing bankruptcy to help with the debt problem, then get some counseling to help pull his head out of his ass. He may not have anything else to his name, but he's damned sure got some huge brass balls thinking you'll support his sorry ass. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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He needs some tough love baby!!!!! And he got it!!!!!
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He only has himself to blame. I do hope he can turn things around but, you're right, he has to do it on his own.
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I have no patience for people that won't help themselves. It is one thing for those that truly can't - the feeble minded, severely physically handicapped, etc. But in this day and age, no excuse for not just working hard and making do. Plenty of people desperate for workers.
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It's truly hard living with someone who continually makes the wrong decisions or has an addiction. It sounds like he has never made any sort of effort in his life and that now he is going to face a very real consequence of his inactions. Here's hoping that rock bottom will force him to make actual choices for his own growth and wellbeing. Not everyone rises to the challenge but life isn't meant to be easy. Too many people utilize minimum or no effort, expecting things to be either handed to them or fall into their lap. My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment
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You are so right He's a Leach A user of people Get a real job and stand in his own to feet Show you he a man Then he has changed You did right don't back down. You can do it with kids He can do it for you. Xoxoxo have a wonderful day go enjoy the wild life.
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Can only hope for his sake he gets his shit together! We live in a time where there are plenty of resources for misguided individuals ie Homeless to get food and some help ! I do feel bad for them, but We are Masters of our own destiny for the most part !They can Sit and feel sorry for themselves or get it together and build a life !! Just my 2 cents ? Hope all goes well
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11/10/2021 4:51 am |
Sometimes you just have to admit you can't fix someone.
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11/10/2021 3:41 am |
I know some guys like that and it amazes me that some women will support them while they breeze thru life.
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It's very difficult to help a person if they don't want to help themselves. I'd be fuming if I found out an ex was spending my money on non-essentials while they were with me!
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The hippie will more than likely never change. Do you have any Primal Urges ... I do, please CUMHANDLEME and explore some of my naughty and nice Primal ... Urges with me !!!
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Your analysis was a bleak one. But hang on a sec, how many times have you said, "This is the last time I'm speaking with him?" 😶 I understand; having hope for a person you cared for is a tricky thing to give up. Ya think he, maybe, perhaps, kinda — sorta — might veer towards the right lane? 🤔 ❓ ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Right or wrong, we make them every day. Every day... We live with the consequences as well. I talked to the Hippie on the phone on Friday, probably a bad choice on my part. He had texted me and told me the Mighty Marine and I had inspired him to make some positive change in his life. I was curious. Turns out the positive change was giving up marijuana. Not because he wanted to.... But because he was penniless and could not afford it. He went on to tell me about how he had spent nearly all of his money for years on marijuana and he now regretted it. I kept it to myself, but this pissed me right the fuck off. Really?!? And, in that time that we were seeing each other, and he was always broke, and I was always paying for everything.... It was because he spent his money on drugs. The worst part was, he was perfectly ok with expecting a struggling single mom to pay his way through everything. I listened as he went on to tell me that his family has completely abandoned him and he has gone into survival mode, living on one canned good a day and collecting firewood in the woods around him because his dad did not have any firewood sent out to his house this year. "You might be taking care of me and [the Spawn] this winter. Everyone has abandoned me." Did he really think he was going to slip that in there?? And that I would say yes?!? "Nope, just [the Spawn]." "What was that?" "I said just [the Spawn]. You're a grown man, it's time to act like it." There was a long silence as he realized I wasn't about to just take him in and fix his problem. I went on to ask him if he's been looking for a job and where he has applied. He's applied nowhere. The same old story about how he owes money for student loans and old credit card bills and now the government for collecting unemployment when he shouldn't have been started coming out..... I'd heard it all before. "Stop. You've got to quit doing this. This is NEVER going away so you might as well get a job and deal with the garnishments." Another long silence. This man chose to burn all those bridges with his family. He kicked his father out of his home and threatened to end his life, what did he expect? It kind of takes away that feeling of obligation to support your loser son. This man has probably been spending thousands of dollars year after year on wood deliveries for the Hippie because he knew the Hippie wouldn't be doing it for himself. He was correct. This year is proof in point. Winter is upon us and he is completely unprepared. There was a time when I though the Hippie had promise and hope, that he would turn things around and get back on track. It took me a while to realize, this was never going to happen. Even now, as he's hovering around rock bottom, he's still trying to find that next meal ticket instead of getting his shit together. I felt some closure when I ended that call. I will probably not know how he fares this winter or if he ever finds a job, my communication with the Hippie has reached an end. I do hope he will finally open his eyes and get his life on track. He is the only person that can do that for him.
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